"Ugh! I feel Fat!"

I remember waiting for the bell to ring after fourth period so i could meet my friends in the bathroom to share the newest shades of lip gloss and to trade gossip from last weekend's party. Every single day at least two girls in our group would complain about the size o their butts or their frizzy hair. Then a debate would unfold--with each girl trying to outdo the other with tales of their fatness and friziness. i guess getting a group of girls in front of a mirror just lends itself to body-bashing, right? but why is that? how come we grow closer when we tear down our bodies?

When you're constantly picking apart your looks, you might think it will feel etter when other people disagree with you. but no matter how many times your friends come back with "you're not fat!" or "im so much fatter than you!" it doesnt make you feel better. in fact, just saying all this bad stuff about your body is only going to make you feel rather worse.

First realize that sometimes we body-bash to cover up bigger problems. Maybe you're feeling insecure about something else (like catty girls at school or your parents' divorce). so you focus those negative feelings on your appearance rather than deal with whats going on inside.

next recognize that this kind of talk is really just a surface wat to relate to other girls. everyone is afraid of being judged, so instead of putting our true selves out there, we dis ourselves before anyone else gets the chance.

Look, its hard to do, but when you stop bashing you body, you'll finally have time to talk about what really matters.

--------Jess

Response: this is the story of most of the girls. Looks is their first priority, if they dont look good then they can't go out of their rooms! if they have a bad hair day, they skip school, if they gain half a pound, they go on everlasting diets. The starve themselves, and avoid every single dang thing that contains sugar/oil. If the weather is the cause for their frizzy hair, they wont agree to it, and blame it on something else(just an excuse). They use words they would never ever think of saying to someone else to critisize their own looks; now how bad is that?! People hate it when someone calls them fat, or ugly etc, but they dont realize they do the same thing to themselves over and over again untill they just colapse! I too sometimes talk about me being fat and having frizzy hair(i mean come on, im a girl for sakes!), but not that bad, and not EVERYSINGLE DAY! So, yea i do know that liking yourself for the way it is the best thing a person can do to their body! People need to learn how to respect themselves, before they expect someone else to...


NOW THAT WOULD BE FAT! XD